Find the humour
11/06/2008 00:11 Filed in: life story | EssentialMum
Happy Camper has no constraints in telling anyone anything. Anything. So we’ve learned to take that into account. It means we are mindful of the level of detail we provide her in relation to some matters.
The current topic is age, and we’ve had a bit of fun with this one. Happy Camper knows exactly how old she is, and tells everyone. For a long time EssentialMum has fobbed her off in response to any age queries with the answer that EssentialMum is 22.
Well, it had to happen. Here’s how the conversation went one afternoon after school:
Happy Camper: Mum, how old are you?
EssentialMum: Old.
Happy Camper: I know, but how old?
EssentialMum: 22.
Happy Camper: My teacher thinks you might be a bit older than that.
EssentialMum: Does she now?
Happy Camper, (thoughtfully): Mmmn. And she knows everything.
EssentialMum: Look, it’s raining. Isn’t that interesting…..
Afterwards, we had a wonderful laugh. And later still, we shared that laughter with her teacher.
So, a couple of reminders worth noting for us:
Find the humour.
You’ll need it, so make sure you take time to treasure the funny things. Make a note of them - write them down. They become a great part of life story work – we have a file called ‘Laughter’ which contains all the funny comments and incidents that have given us a laugh along the way. They also provide us with some reminders for the ‘when you were little’ conversations that children love. And they are sometimes like a small breath of fresh sustaining air when times are tough.
Build the child’s story according to the child’s age.
A wise worker told us that the explanation to a child in care of their birth and childhood was one that would develop and deepen over time – as they grow the level of detail and explanation would increase. We’ve found that works. Children are often, surprisingly, happy with the basics.
So we bow to the inevitable and know that very soon, Happy Camper will learn exactly how old EssentialMum is.
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The current topic is age, and we’ve had a bit of fun with this one. Happy Camper knows exactly how old she is, and tells everyone. For a long time EssentialMum has fobbed her off in response to any age queries with the answer that EssentialMum is 22.
Well, it had to happen. Here’s how the conversation went one afternoon after school:
Happy Camper: Mum, how old are you?
EssentialMum: Old.
Happy Camper: I know, but how old?
EssentialMum: 22.
Happy Camper: My teacher thinks you might be a bit older than that.
EssentialMum: Does she now?
Happy Camper, (thoughtfully): Mmmn. And she knows everything.
EssentialMum: Look, it’s raining. Isn’t that interesting…..
Afterwards, we had a wonderful laugh. And later still, we shared that laughter with her teacher.
So, a couple of reminders worth noting for us:
Find the humour.
You’ll need it, so make sure you take time to treasure the funny things. Make a note of them - write them down. They become a great part of life story work – we have a file called ‘Laughter’ which contains all the funny comments and incidents that have given us a laugh along the way. They also provide us with some reminders for the ‘when you were little’ conversations that children love. And they are sometimes like a small breath of fresh sustaining air when times are tough.
Build the child’s story according to the child’s age.
A wise worker told us that the explanation to a child in care of their birth and childhood was one that would develop and deepen over time – as they grow the level of detail and explanation would increase. We’ve found that works. Children are often, surprisingly, happy with the basics.
So we bow to the inevitable and know that very soon, Happy Camper will learn exactly how old EssentialMum is.
Posted by EssentialMum
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